“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear”
My Who and My Why
When I was 18 years old I enlisted in the Canadian Forces and served for several years in the communications division. My mental and physical health was in peak shape, and I was easily running 16 kilometers every morning. Aside from occasional aches and pains, I felt like I was on top of my game. After a number of years in the military, chronic pain back steadily increased and I found myself in the emergency room frequently seeking relief. I was at a loss of what could be happening. I considered myself fit, healthy and very conscious of how diet affects physical and mental wellness. I went for years without an answer; multiple blood tests and MRIs, chiropractor and physiotherapy appointment, and specialist after specialist, I still had no answers. Over time I developed severe sleep apnea, fibromyalgia, anemia, psoriasis and rage episodes. It became all consuming, and the pain was unbearable, I decided to leave the military.
At the age of 29 years, I finally got the diagnosis I was searching for: Ankylosing Spondylitis, an autoimmune disease, a type of rheumatoid arthritis that causes severe back pain due to inflammation and fusion of the spinal bones. I was only 29, in generally good health, and not the stereotypical Spondylitis candidate. I had ignored early symptoms and put off going to a rheumatologist (a joint and arthritis doctor) for years because I couldn't believe that I would have arthritis at 29 years old.
My rheumatologist offered several medication options, but made it clear that there was no cure and this would be degenerative. He gave me the choice between 3 different weekly injections, each with side effects that seemed worse than my original back pain. I chose one, I learned to give myself the injections at home, and it completely changed my body and my life. I didn't feel as much pain, but my mood changed, my weight increased (I gained 80 pounds in 4 months), and it cost $1750 per month (thankfully we had a drug plan).
I fell into a deep depression, my new marriage was suffering and I was searching for ways to relieve the remaining pain when the injections no longer worked. I started into old habits, smoking and gambling, to distract myself from what was going on. I was raging and explosive with my wife and children, and I was in a bad place. I had never felt so helpless.
My wife and I sought out a professional that performed a Quantum Change Process, a highly transformative technique that identifies and releases past experiences, emotional issues, obstacles and blockages, so that people can move forward with their lives as intended. She worked with my wife and myself separately as well as together. My Quantum Change Process was so transformative that I was able to stop taking the weekly injections and instead take just a mild anti-inflammatory daily, and more importantly, my next MRI found absolutely no signs of disease in my spine.
My back pain is drastically reduced, my auto immune disease is gone, and I am a new man.
At home, my wife and I have five beautiful daughters aged from 2 - 11 years old. Understanding how to communicate respectfully and manage of blended family on top of life and career has always been an ongoing work in progress. Understanding how to communicate as partners and parents continues to help all of us manage our behaviours and emotions through everyday experiences.
What I've learned is that everyone goes through different experiences....it is not the experiences that define us, but how we choose to respond to them that makes the difference. I researched, trained and mastered the skills that changed my life. I feel called to serve and guide others to unlock their limitless potential and break free from anything holding them back.